Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Controlling Anger


This week is my worst ever in getting a taxi for my journey towards office. On the first two days, it was so hard to get a taxi which never occurred in the previous weeks. The next day I got a taxi driver who was new in his job and not that familiar in Dubai and the cab was moving so slow that other cars were able to pass us. Then this morning, the driver took me to a longer way and we were circling the area for almost 20 minutes! The regular taxi fare of 25 AED became 45 AED, the heck! I was so mad during those times and honestly, I was surprised how I managed to control my anger. If I was my "old self", then I think I might have shouted the driver and poured out nasty and bad words towards them.

So I assessed myself, I have really matured and I can really master my emotions. Though there are still those times that the anger can't be tamed and the outburst of emotions were unstoppable and I must admit that I am still a work in progress. Based on my experience for the past three years since I renewed myself and became a better person, I have this guidance for myself and several ways on how I can put a dominion on my anger. Maybe the list can help you or you can convey it to others for their use. Below contains simple steps that might be applicable to you:
  1. Take a deep breath and admit to yourself that you are starting to get irritated. Stop for a while, think it over while closing your eyes for few seconds. Counting from 1 to 10 can also be helpful.
  2. Once you are in the state of calmness, speak your concerns and talk to that person in a non-confrontational way. Discuss your issues straight to the point. State it clearly and directly.
  3. Bring your thoughts to those happy moments that you had. You can also go shopping or eat those foods that you are craving. Watch a movie or tune in to your favorite TV show.
  4. Physical activity can really lessen the stress and will ease your mind. Put the anger on the treadmill; lift those barbells as if you were pushing your madness. A shower after the workout is very refreshing.
  5. You can also seek advise or talk to the person whom you trust. Talking to that person and discussing your issues can open your mind and can bring other options or might even present some resolutions.
  6. Never play the blame game. Check and ask yourself those things that you could have done in preventing such situation. It might be that you missed some things or forgot some priorities. Always assess the situation and always think first before you talk.
  7. It is also easier to put the situation in a humorous way. Use words that can be funny and don't put too much seriousness about it. It can help lighten up the situation and your mood.
  8. Forgive and forget, don't hold grudge as it will never be helpful and will always hunt you.
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